I think I've found an acceptable approach.
1: I've added my Coppa Child Privacy graphic with a link to my Coppa
Disclosure page at the bottom of the left column of the Ringlink pages,
right below the Ringlink graphic.
See http://ringdeli.com/newsite.pl?ringid=webguard
2: I've modified my "application email" to request that applicants tell
me they are more than 12 years old when they tell me that they've place
the code on their site.
3: I've documented this in my COPPA disclosure page
See http://www.JamesSHuggins.com/h/bas1/coppa_cabana.htm
It required the minimum changes to the page and is "adequate" for what
I'm trying to do.
James S. Huggins
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